Max and Gwen have been fighting for months. . . . → Read More: How To Save A Relationship]]> Discover The Two Reasons Why You REALLY Broke Up And How You Can Reverse Your Breakup Even If Things Seem Completely Hopeless. Read The Story To Find Out…

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Max and Gwen have been fighting for months. After dating for while, it seems like the love they had for each other has been replaced with bitterness and boredom.

They are not alone.

Thousands of couples are going through this exact same thing and are wondering how they can save their relationship. However, 90% of relationships can be saved if they know the strategy! The following super -effective techniques will help you save a relationship that is failing.

First, you have to find the root cause of the problem.

One big mistake most couples make is thinking that the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself.

Let me explain:

If Max has an affair with another woman, on first glance it might seem that the affair caused the breakup. But according to T. Dub Jackson, relationship expert and author of The Magic of Making Up, on closer examination you will see that that the affair is a symptom of a deeper root problem that has most likely been developing for a while: a lack of intimacy or communication.

The affair is just an outward manifestation of this root problem. If you get to the root problem, you can save the relationship.

If you don’t deal with the root reason for the affair, you might be able to stop the affair through feelings of guilt but the problem will surface in other ways later because you haven’t dealt with the CORE issue.

After you have identified the root cause of the problem you are now in a position to talk to each other about your thoughts and rebuild lost communication. This is the time to express your feelings to each other verbally and listening to your partners concerns.

As soon as you have figured out the problems in your relationship you need to create a plan to solve them. For instance, Gwen

tells Max that she wishes he would spend more time with her. So they plan to date night every week. They take turns coming up with creative date ideas each Wednesday.

Max, however, wants to communicate more with Gwen, so each night before bed they spend 20 minutes talking to each other. Soon, Max and Gwen’s relationship becomes more intimate than ever. Their love strengthens more and more and pretty soon they are more in love than they have ever been.

Remember, if you want to save a relationship, it will take a little time. You will make progress but you will make mistakes. Don’t be so quick to judge your partner.

Be quick to forgive and slow to blame.

If you want to save your relationship it will take effort, communication, forgiveness and lots of patience. If both of you make the commitment to move forward using the steps in this article you can, and will, save your relationship.

Breakups are funny things if you think about it. Most things in life the more you do . . . → Read More: How To Get Over A Breakup]]> How to Get Over A Breakup Fast – 3 Powerful Techniques To Get Over The Pain

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Breakups are funny things if you think about it. Most things in life the more you do them the easier they become. But with breakups it doesn’t matter how many times you lose someone it doesn’t get any easier. The longer the relationship the harder it is to deal with them leaving. But if you want to know how get over a breakup fast, use the following techniques and it will make your breakup much easier to deal with.

1 – Clean Up Your Place

It is going to be a lot more difficult to get over your breakup if you don’t get rid of the stuff that reminds you of them. Go through your house and find things that remind you of them and put them away. You don’t have to throw them away or burn them (although this sometimes helps) just put them away were you can’t see them.

Look for knick knacks, souvenirs, pictures, jewelry, etc. Remove anything that reminds you of your ex. If your place is furnished with things you bought together as a couple, then it might be hard to rid of everything-your house would be bare.

Lets say you bought a couch together, but the couch has a pillow that he bought for you on it. Put that pillow away and store it. It will make things a lot easier for you.

2 – The Invisible Letter Technique

This is one of the most powerful techniques you can use to get over a breakup fast. Here’s how it works. Open up a word doc, Google doc, or get out a pen and paper. Now, address the letter to your ex and just start writing. Start by writing down everything you are feeling. Don’t hesitate or hold anything back (you’re not going to send the letter).

Let out all your feelings. Tell your ex everything you wish you could say. Write down their faults, what you hate about them, what bothers you. Ask why they hurt you so much, tell them what you wish would happen. This technique is so liberating that I do it often just to get feelings out. You will feel great after you do it.

Try it and see for yourself!

3- List Their Bad Qualities

You can include this technique in the previous or do it separately. Make a list of all your ex’s faults. This is no time to be nice or hold back. Just let it all out. List every little thing that you don’t like about them.

This method is really powerful. It will cause you to think about your ex a lot, but pointing our your ex’s worst qualities will make it easier to let go. You will start to see how imperfect your ex was, or you may see that your ex isn’t as bad as you thought. If this is the case you’ll want to win them back, and you’ll learn how to do this later.

Travis Jackson, relationship expert and author of The Magic of Making Up, suggests that you take a step back and analyze the relationship. I’m not going to get into too much depth (you can read more about it here), but essentially he explains that you might find that things were not as good as you thought, and despite the pain, you are happy for the experience and are ready to move on.

No matter what you decide, the pain is still real and implementing these techniques will help you get over the pain of a breakup. Good luck!

On the other hand, broken hearts have resulted . . . → Read More: Powerful Techniques For Coping With Breakup Pain]]> Coping With A Breakup – 5 Ultra-Powerful Techniques for Dealing With the Pain

A broken heart is one of the most exquisitely painful feelings we can feel. The hurt can sometimes be so unbearable that one can’t eat, sleep, work or do anything productive at all.

On the other hand, broken hearts have resulted in some of the best music, paintings and poems this world has ever done. Wouldn’t it be great if you could somehow fast forward through theses feelings, and maybe channel some of them to create some great stuff? Here are 7 highly effective ways to cope with breakup pain

1. Get Rid of Negative Thoughts – Right after a breakup you might feel that it was your fault. You might also feel insecure, vulnerable, sad, depressed and these thoughts might make you feel a lack of self esteem and self confidence. You may feel inadequate and that no one will love you again, and that you will never be healed again.

The good news is that most of this is not true. The relationship that ended probably wasn’t all your fault, you WILL love again, you are not inadequate and you shouldn’t blame everything on yourself. All these negative thoughts will take an emotional toll on you and drag you down even further.

How can you push these negative thoughts out of your mind? Every morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are confident, beautiful/handsome, and that you can do anything.

This may seem kind of cheesy (and maybe it is), but by reciting these things out loud, you will convince your brain that these things are true and you will begin to feel a difference. Read this great article on positive reinforcement.

There is also something called “The Fast Forward Method.” It is technique I learned from a book I bought called “The Magic Of Making Up.” You can use the technique to instantly eliminate those depressing feelings whenever they come up. You can read more about the book here.

2. Cope Using Music, Quotes, Poems and Books - This is a great time to use your creativity and express yourself in any way you can. If you play an instrument, write a song! Buy a Moleskine and take it with you everywhere and write poems and song lyrics whenever you feel down. Find a good book and read! This is a great and healthy way to escape from the world for a while. There are some really good authors out there that will take your mind off things for a while

3. The Science Of Gratitude - One of the hardest things to do after a breakup is not think about yourself and the pain you’re going through. Even more difficult is to think about OTHER people’s problems, but it just so happens that this is what you should do to get over your heart break.

Spend some time writing some letters to some friends, sending some much needed emails, calling your family, etc

You will be amazed at how quickly your pain will go away when you stop thinking about your own problems and focusing on the needs of others. In addition to all that, there are some scientifically proven benefits of being grateful:

-More optimism

-Fewer physical ailments

-Higher levels of determination, alertness, and enthusiasm

-Fewer negative states such as fear, bitterness, and sadness

-Lower rates of cardiovascular disease

-Decreased blood pressure
-Better sleep

See? This may be tough, but the advantages are totally worth it.

4. Visit Familiar Places

Use some time to visit some familiar places in your town or city. If you are in your hometown, visit your old school, the library, the park you used to go to, the movies, etc. This will bring back some happy memories and may even make you smile :

5. Simple Acts of Kindness

Spend some time volunteering at the local soup kitchen, homeless shelter, elderly home or pet adoption clinic. It will be hard to force yourself to get out and do these things but I make you a promise that if you start to show kindness to others, your pain will disappear.

One of the best strategies to instantly get rid of the pain is known as “The Fast Forward Method.” I learned how to do it from the book I mentioned earlier. This book saved my relationship and was worth every last penny. You can read more about it here.

Remember that even though you think you’ll never love someone as much ever again, you will. The feelings will eventually pass and life will move on.

Here’s lookin’ at you kid.