Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Tips

How to Get Your Boyfriend Back in Your Arms After Your Breakup – Even if Things Seem Absolutely Hopeless

Going through a breakup is tough. You are not alone, I promise. Others have gone through exactly what you are going through and have made it out OK.

I remember when I broke up with my boyfriend – It was weird because I knew a few weeks before that something was wrong but I just couldn’t put my finger on it. We started to argue more than usual, I felt myself start to separate from him more and more and nothing I did seemed to help.

When we broke up I was devastated. I cried for days (and I’m ashamed to say it) I slept in till 2pm for like a week. Everything I saw reminded me of him. Every song I listened to reminded me of him and all the sad songs seemed to come to life – like the were written just for me.

It was horrible. The pain was excruciating. I wondered where he was, what he was doing. I wondered if he was in as much pain as I was and if he was thinking what I was thinking.

But I was soooo lucky. This didn’t last long because I finally got some help. Not like from a psychiatrist or anything but from a relationship expert. His name is Travis Sago and he wrote a book called Magic of Making Up.

I don’t know how exactly how it happened but I stumbled across the book when I was searching online for ways to get my guy back. But let me tell you, it completely changed the way I handled my breakup and pretty much everything turned around! And guess what?! I got my boyfriend back, and we are better than ever!

So let me share you some tips from the book because I know they will help you get your boyfriend back.

Here are three things I learned from the book:

1. Get him to come back to you

This is one of the most powerful things I learned. When I first broke up I wanted soooo bad to call and text him and tell him how much I missed him. What most people don’t realize is that this totally will mess things up. I learned not to follow my instincts because if you chase him he’ll back away even more. So the secret here is to make HIM come back to YOU.

How do you do this? Well, the best advice I can give you is to do the exact opposite of what your instincts tell you. What I did was completely cut off all communication with him. I didn’t call, text, email, chat or anything. This was really hard for me, but I noticed that he started to call and text me! It took a little while but this strategy really works!

2. Agree with the breakup

When my BF first told me he wanted to breakup I asked him what had happened and I tried to get him to explain to me what was wrong but he didn’t (or couldn’t) answer. It drove me crazy. After that I told him that I wanted to get back together and give it all another shot. Guess what? It didn’t work – it just made him more firm in his decision.

What the Magic of Making up book suggested was to “agree with the breakup” (In fact you can watch a video about that here). Instead of telling him how much you love him and miss him and that you don’t want to breakup, I told him that I thought the breakup was a good idea. I told him that I actually had felt that things weren’t going well before and I told him that I thought the breakup was a good idea. Of course, this completely took him off guard and a few days later he called me because he wanted to talk!

(PS. I had to redeem myself because I had already told him that I didn’t want to breakup so he knew that I was against it, but the book explained how to redeem yourself even if you have texted him and called and begged him to get back with you!)

3. Understand the root cause of the breakup

Guys are sooo hard to understand. At first I didn’t understand why we broke up. I felt like I was doing everything right, but the book I read explained that most breakups are caused by two things:

1. Lack of intimacy

2. Lack of communication

What opened my eyes was that I thought we were being intimate and communicating but he didn’t! And I realized that when I thought he was communicating to me he actually wasn’t!.I learned how to really communicate with him. I was able to show that I really cared. Most men want to feel important and appreciated and once I started doing that he couldn’t take his eyes of me, and the trust in our relationship grew and I didn’t have to worry about him thinking about other girls because I knew how to make him feel wanted and appreciated! This all has to do with those two things: communication and intimacy.

I can’t tell you how happy I am that we got back together and things are going great. And it may seem like things are hopeless for you right now but I promise things will get better. I really hope this has helped you!

And if you need more help check out this site – there is a great video and some more great advice.

Wish you the best!