Coping With A Breakup – 5 Ultra-Powerful Techniques for Dealing With the Pain

A broken heart is one of the most exquisitely painful feelings we can feel. The hurt can sometimes be so unbearable that one can’t eat, sleep, work or do anything productive at all.

On the other hand, broken hearts have resulted in some of the best music, paintings and poems this world has ever done. Wouldn’t it be great if you could somehow fast forward through theses feelings, and maybe channel some of them to create some great stuff? Here are 7 highly effective ways to cope with breakup pain

1. Get Rid of Negative Thoughts – Right after a breakup you might feel that it was your fault. You might also feel insecure, vulnerable, sad, depressed and these thoughts might make you feel a lack of self esteem and self confidence. You may feel inadequate and that no one will love you again, and that you will never be healed again.

The good news is that most of this is not true. The relationship that ended probably wasn’t all your fault, you WILL love again, you are not inadequate and you shouldn’t blame everything on yourself. All these negative thoughts will take an emotional toll on you and drag you down even further.

How can you push these negative thoughts out of your mind? Every morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are confident, beautiful/handsome, and that you can do anything.

This may seem kind of cheesy (and maybe it is), but by reciting these things out loud, you will convince your brain that these things are true and you will begin to feel a difference. Read this great article on positive reinforcement.

There is also something called “The Fast Forward Method.” It is technique I learned from a book I bought called “The Magic Of Making Up.” You can use the technique to instantly eliminate those depressing feelings whenever they come up. You can read more about the book here.

2. Cope Using Music, Quotes, Poems and Books - This is a great time to use your creativity and express yourself in any way you can. If you play an instrument, write a song! Buy a Moleskine and take it with you everywhere and write poems and song lyrics whenever you feel down. Find a good book and read! This is a great and healthy way to escape from the world for a while. There are some really good authors out there that will take your mind off things for a while

3. The Science Of Gratitude - One of the hardest things to do after a breakup is not think about yourself and the pain you’re going through. Even more difficult is to think about OTHER people’s problems, but it just so happens that this is what you should do to get over your heart break.

Spend some time writing some letters to some friends, sending some much needed emails, calling your family, etc

You will be amazed at how quickly your pain will go away when you stop thinking about your own problems and focusing on the needs of others. In addition to all that, there are some scientifically proven benefits of being grateful:

-More optimism

-Fewer physical ailments

-Higher levels of determination, alertness, and enthusiasm

-Fewer negative states such as fear, bitterness, and sadness

-Lower rates of cardiovascular disease

-Decreased blood pressure
-Better sleep

See? This may be tough, but the advantages are totally worth it.

4. Visit Familiar Places

Use some time to visit some familiar places in your town or city. If you are in your hometown, visit your old school, the library, the park you used to go to, the movies, etc. This will bring back some happy memories and may even make you smile :

5. Simple Acts of Kindness

Spend some time volunteering at the local soup kitchen, homeless shelter, elderly home or pet adoption clinic. It will be hard to force yourself to get out and do these things but I make you a promise that if you start to show kindness to others, your pain will disappear.

One of the best strategies to instantly get rid of the pain is known as “The Fast Forward Method.” I learned how to do it from the book I mentioned earlier. This book saved my relationship and was worth every last penny. You can read more about it here.

Remember that even though you think you’ll never love someone as much ever again, you will. The feelings will eventually pass and life will move on.

Here’s lookin’ at you kid.